Your Worth Isn't Dependent On Others

We hear the expression "self-worth" a lot, but we rarely take the time to stop and think about it.

What do we base our own worth on?

In our Western society, we have been conditioned to think that our value has to do with external conditions and factors.

We think we are our job, our relationship status, our neighborhood.

We think that the way others treat us, is a direct result of, and reflection of, our value.

The truth of the matter is, how others treat us has mostly to do with them and has very little to do with us.

Everyone sees and reacts to the world through their own lens of desires, beliefs, experiences and conditioning.

A person who believes there is good in the world, will see good.

A person who approaches life from a victim mentality will see people as mistrustful, regardless of the reality.

We generally get this self-worth thing backwards. If people respond positively to us, THEN we believe we are worthy.

The truth of the matter is we are worthy of kindness, compassion, respect and love, just because we exist.

We can't control if others give us those things.

We can, however, provide ourselves with kindness, compassion, respect and love, regardless of how others treat us.

Our own self-love and self-worth should not be conditional rewards based on other people's opinions and actions.

Very few of us realize this.

The good news is: once we do realize it, we can start treating ourselves with kindness and change the scale which we use to gauge our own value.

The first step is realizing that people's ability or inability to love you, has nothing to do with your lovability.

It's important, so I am going to say it again.

People's ability or inability to love you, has nothing to do with your lovability.

Remember this, always.